Nhasi ndirikuFARA and only the real ones know. I won’t even bother translating the shona phrase because the importance of the statement will be lost in translation. That said, I would like to say that over the last few months I have realised the importance of a strong family nucleus, and this is not limited to blood ties. Once you identify the people in your life that add value and are invested in your wellbeing, I advise that one should do everything in their power to keep those people close.
Recently, I have been confronted by a lot of conflict within my inner circle and I found this to be extremely challenging. I have been in certain situations where some of my tightest bonds came into question and I found myself questioning ALL my relationships, and putting even the most innocuous conflict situations under the microscope. I’m glad to say that I was able to navigate around the major conflict, with some help in some instances, and that encouraged me to place more value on my inner circle (family) as these are people that would change the complexion of my life, in a negative sense, if they were not a part of it.
Another thing I have learned as a result of the aforementioned conflict situations is to be mindful of my contribution into the lives of my family. Sometimes, it is so easy to look at how your own life is being affected by other people’s actions, but it takes a great level of self awareness to be able to assess how your own actions contribute to said situations. Trust me, it’s not always easy to look into the mirror once you remove the blinkers, i.e. the subjectivity everyone invariably has towards themselves. The few times I have truly reflected on my own actions have been some of the most confronting moments I have experienced in my 30 years of human existence. Once I was able to come to terms with my shortcomings, I could then take decisive steps to improve my contributions into my family ties. That said, I am a long way from being where I need to be, but I now know what is required to maintain strong bonds with those that truly matter.
In closing, I would like to give a shout out to all the real ones who must surely know who they are. The peeps that have truly had my back in some really sticky situations, and have suffered some of my uncouth personality traits but have stuck by my side without flinching. A big shout out to the ones that haven’t been afraid to point out when I have been off the mark, I’m proud that the ones that I consider to be real have never pulled any punches with me and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Shout out to my old man, who will probably never read this, but he deserves the biggest shout out because a lot of the values he instilled in me at young age are now paying dividends in my life, and though we have had a few rough patches along the way I am not ashamed to proclaim that I love the man to bits. This phase of my life is one of the most crucial ones and I with the family I am lucky to surround myself with, I am confident that everything will turn out great.
Big ups to the fam!!!
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